To find yourself in gratitude is a gift. When we are feeling stress, anxiety or depression, getting into a state of gratitude can help. It’s all about changing your state for success. If you constantly complain about what you don’t have, what you can’t do, what you want but can’t afford your are in a place of lack and limitation. You are providing fertile soil for limitation to come into your life. You lose track of that fact that you have a roof over your head, food on your plate, a child in college and that despite some of lifes challenges there is still greatness all around me.
How many happy people do you know that are grateful?
How many unhappy people do you know that are grateful?
Bringing gratitude into your life is as easy as saying, ‘thank you’. Saying it when someone opens the door for you. Saying ‘thank you’ when someon hands you your change or saying it just because you are thankful. Show appreciation, it’s free and it feels good.
One of my best tips for bringing more gratitude into your life is to make a gratitude list. It will be easy with all the ‘big’ things, but as you continue to do it you’ll find that there are the things that seemed inconsequental before now become something you are grateful for. I’ve been grateful for a pair of new shoes, finding money on the ground and having a great day. Start with ten things that you are grateful for. I suggest doing your lists when you wake up and right before you go to sleep at night. Make sure you write it down as it anchors the gratitude deeper into you.
Start here, and remember to fill your every moment with gratitude.
I’ve recently moved across the world to Chiang Mai, Thailand. I went all the way out of my comfort zone. In fact, let’s step outside of it, ALWAYS. Comfort zones can be a little too comfortable. So much so that one can become complacent, feeling tinges of fear anytime change may show it’s ‘ugly’ face.
In life, we must maintain our evolution by consistently overcoming anything we fear. Fear can stagnate the muscles of your life, making it difficult to attain even the most simple goal. Fear can take your options down to nothing and prevent from any success in your future.
Working out the fear is like stretching your muscles. Taking time get your body lean, strong and flexible to meet life. It is truly an exercise in courage.
That’s why it is important to constantly stretch yourself. Take the yoga class you’ve always wanted to, sign up for martial arts is thats what you want or simply take the leap into something that you’ve always wanted to. The worst that can happen is that you’ll decide it wasn’t for you. If you never try, you will always fail, guaranteed. The more you take on those little fears, you begin to chip away at the big ones and all of a sudden the fears that you thought were so big were really just an illusion. Your fears, a mere reminder that you have been standing still for far too long and it’s now time to take action
Each space we enter has a certain feel, a vibe, a way in which it’s distinguished from any other space. The way you percieve it is up to your perception. Most of the time we ignore the feeling of a space because the shell or the ‘gold plating’ appears to be beautiful. Other times, we disregard our first initial intuitive response and caste it to the side because we may possibly be thinking too much.
The best example is I can give you was years ago I was invited to a party in a geourgeous mansion. It appeared to be brand new, complete with the latest appliances, modern furniture and a gorgeous kitchen that a chef would swoon over. I remember walking in and saying to myself, “Wow. This is nice” but something felt wrong, very wrong. Everyone seemed to be congregating in the kitchen area which had party appetizers all over the table. I made a plate for myself and began to talk to my fellow-party goers. I felt uncomfortable, not because of them but the space.
I remember telling a friend something isn’t right here. As the party went on, I realized that I couldn’t remain inside anymore and had to retire to the front lawn where a group of people were gathered. Soon after this we ended up leaving. It wasn’t until months later that I found out that the house had recently been in a terrible fire(arson) and was gutted and redone using the existing structure as the skeleton.
On the other side, I’ve walked into spaces where you could feel an overwhelming sense of love in the home or you just felt damn good in the space.
When you get a feeling on a place. Whether you are apartment hunting or buying a house make sure it feels great.
My advice, Walk into a sanctuary.
My roots thrive in dirt, colored leaves strewn about, waiting to wither into earth.
Decaying Leaves and water nourish my trunk and limbs. The soil I live in is soaked by falling rain.
I experience each root growing deeper, deeper into the earth. Rocks and boulders can’t stop me. I adapt. I move around them. I stand tall in the face of the wind, and still, while snow falls. I am a witness to all and patient at the core.
Beyond all this, I continue to GROW.
I’ve had the opportunity work with many people that require a little change of perception. When we walk into a problem its very easy to see it head on, for what ‘it is’. But what it might be is something else.
Let us introduce the power of changing your perception(essentially we are changing the filter in which we view things). Each of us knows how to use a filter all too well. Think of photography as the photographer changes lenses or filters to get a different shot. Also think of instagram or the billions of selfies that are seen across social media. We use those filters to make ourselves or the environment appear a particular way. The filters in which we view things change the way we percieve them.
For instance, think of someone that has recently lost their job. They feel upset, lost and defeated. The best that you can do for that friend is to offer them a new way to look at it.
Try saying , ‘maybe this is the perfect time to go out there and get the job you really want’ or ‘I wish I had some free time to clear my head’.
You don’t have to be positive all the time. Just offer them a new filter/way to see the experience through.
It’s about each of us being flexible in our perception. The more caught up we get with our disempowering filters the less opportunities we have for success and a happy life.
Try it. If something doesn’t go as planned change your filter and change your life for the better.
The smell of fried chicken and drying fish fills the air as I walk into the marketplace. Stand upon stand of different foods, partialy cut pineapples, tomatoes, onions, and durian. Klak! klak! the butchers blade slams against the wood, parts of the pig now in pieces. It’s head and snout staring straight up into the air. I ignore the mosquitos biting at my ankles, the chatter of voices blends into nothing I could ever understand and a woman sits cross legged on the floor with a bowl filled with bahts, one hand in prayer position, the other gone. Most walk around her, others stop to drop a few.
I see a women selling waffles, another selling made-to-order gourmet pizzas that are topped with what looks like a new take on mayonannaise and a liquid tomato paste. She places a pizza into one of her two ovens under a table and I wonder if she has a generator to power them.
I pass an older woman, with graying hair, pulled into a tight bun, ignoring the man seated in front of her, meldling and molding a metal casing with pliers, getting it just right. She doesn’t look up. She’s selling Buddha pendants on a small table, a foot high. Some pendants are stone, others metal, and some that look like they have been carved from clay.
I look up.
I realize. Amidst all the hustle and bustle there is a quiet, just beneath the sounds or maybe in between them.
The present moment.
We contain everything that we need for our greatness. I’ve recently moved to Chiang Mai, Thailand and you can imagine…total culture shock. The shock literally brought out a lot of unconscious fear and security issues that I wasn’t willing/ready to heal. But ready or not I, had to face those feelings of insecurity and inadequacy because what we ‘put a muzzle on’ always exists in the background of our lives, depleting our energies a little at a time.
One of my mentors has always told me, “pay attention to those hairline fractures” and I always do. It’s important when going through a big move to make sure that you are completely grounded via crystals, smokey quartz, mediation, healthy eating and/or working out. More than likely, your ability to remain present will be compromised in some way. Stay grounded and that will keep you in the present moment. The intelligence of your spirit already knows the move is coming and will naturally begin to acclamate to the new location while you are still in your present location. This can be a bit disconcerting, but know that is a natural process.
A move in any direction in life, whether it be a new job, relationship, family and/or location change creates change in your life. Remember, change is the only thing guaranteed in life, so embrace it.
During this big move, I’ve found that I’m far more resilient than I realized and the fear I felt was really my courage in disguise waiting to be nurtured. While I’m still adjusting, I know now that this is a process.
Gratitude is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. Oftentimes, one will go through their day and take much for granted. The smallest blessing is a blessing and when we begin to realize that. The splendor in life soon follows. I’ve often spoke about meditation and it’s benefits. Most times you have to set aside your meditation time. But being grateful can happen anywhere, anytime.
It can be at the grocery store in the checkout line, the restaurant, and it can even be while you are work. Fill your day with gratitude.
One of the most important techniques I use to infuse gratitude into my experience is by doing a gratitude list each evening before I go to sleep. The morning works just as well but the evening works for me. I write down a list of ten things I’m grateful for. I really get into it. Kinda like a gratitude meditation. I suggest writing a list of at least ten things that you are grateful for. It can be anything. My advice, pen and paper. I know a computer can be easier but there’s something about pen to paper that really solidifies the energy. Once you begin to do this, pay attention to your days. How are things going when you resonate with gratitude? And if you skip your gratitude list? How does your day go?
Your gratitude practice can start this very moment. Take the time each day to infuse gratitude into your life and watch hte magic happen.